5 Truths Other Mompreneurs Won’t Tell You
When I made the decision to become an entrepreneur, I had to really think about the level of commitment I could dedicate to growing a successful business. Being an entrepreneur is amazing. But, it isn’t as amazing as being a MOM!!! Whew, Whew!!! Go Moms!!! So I had to learn the balance between growing a successful business and effectively managing my home. I had many Mompreneur friends, but, none of us had a blueprint to this thing. There weren’t clear instructions on how to balance everything.
Everyone around me “looked” like they had it all under control. They were these SUPER MOMS that effectively grow their business and made lots of money. Their children were perfect and their homes were spotless. Husbands were supportive and all their friends purchased their products and services.
In the words of the late great Biggie Smalls…..”It was all a dream.” I even believe it is a lie. Let’s wake up and be honest. Being a mom is HARD work. Adding the wonderful task of building a business sometimes feels like someone threw an elephant at you while you are already juggling swords. Yes that’s dramatic. (I have a sweet flair for dramatisims, lol) But that’s how it felt sometimes.
No one told me it was going to be this way. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE owning my own business and will NEVER quit. But, it isn’t as easy as some make it look. It takes whole other level discipline and consistency than working for someone else.
I feel it is my duty to inform all present and future Mompreneurs of 5 Truths Other Mompreneurs Won’t Tell You.
#1 – It’s ok to get your children involved in the business.
I STRONGLY encourage this. You are teaching them amazing work ethics. They are learning how to take pride in their work. They will begin to apply the same work ethic to their school work. The value of money means something completely different now. It boosts confidence and instills the concept that “money doesn’t grow on trees”. You must earn it.
Each of my daughters has a small role in my business. They are paid for completely their job every Friday. This is their job. Exposing them to being an entrepreneur shows them they have options when they grow up. They learn they can choose to either be an employee or the employer. By giving them options and exposing them to a more broad range of options, you successfully set them up for adulthood.
#2 – Schedule time for you and your family to just have fun.
Isn’t this why you got in business in the first place? Don’t neglect your family because you are too consumed with working. They need you. Remember no matter what you do for your business when it is all said and done, YOUR FAMILY is what’s most important. Your empire will grow. But, your children need you to help them grow. You have to learn how to turn your business brain off and engage with your children.
I personally don’t work on the weekends. That’s it. Point blank. That is family time. I focus on them and things we can do together. No contacting clients or entering contracts. Everything I do on the weekends involves my children in some way.
IF you must get some networking or business done on the weekends, make sure it is either something that your children can also enjoy doing or make sure it doesn’t take up your entire day. Thank God I have children that LOVE vendor fairs. As a mompreneur this is the perfect time to network and meet fellow mompreneurs. So we go, get some shopping done. One of the games they play is “Who can get the most business cards?” The girls love this. So I am kind of getting work done, but, the girls are having so much fun because I am really focused on them and shopping. (Note: I wait until Monday, to follow up with everyone I spoke to. )
#3 – You need an hour break every day to just unwind and stop thinking.
When I worked from home, I made the mistake of working from the time the kids left for school until it was time for me to finally go to bed. Continuously working long hours without a break began to work on me. I became exhausted and irritable. It became harder and harder for me to focus. I was on 10 all day and running on fumes. I needed a break!!! So I followed the system that most companies have been teaching us for years. I gave myself a lunch break and time to unwind. Everyday between 2:00 and 3:00, I had lunch and watched some tv. (This also allowed me to get my daily fix of the Steve Harvey talk show!)
Everyone needs time daily to just walk away from their business so that their brains can reboot and relax. Doing this daily helped me so much. It relaxed me and gave me time to unwind. When I went back into my home office at 3:00, I was refreshed and more productive. I actually began to accomplished more daily after scheduling regular lunch breaks.
#4 – Set small goals and REWARD yourself often!
Rome was not built in one day. Sometimes we run our business like we have to get every project, product, program, webinar, etc. created all in one day. Nope! Not the case at all. Set a “realistic” goal of what you are going to do each day or each week. Once you accomplish your goal, reward yourself. One of my daily goals was to contact at least 3 leads. That’s it. My goals was not to get 3 people signed up. It was not to spend hours on the phone with leads. It wasn’t to contact all 197 leads that are sitting in my leads folder. I had to be realistic and know what I can accomplish without feeling stressed. When I contacted those 3 leads, I celebrated by adding $1 to my shoe fund. That’s my kind of reward! Who doesn’t love shoes????
This is a very simple and effective way to keep you focused on accomplishing small goals while celebrating your victory.
#5 – It’s ok to step away for a while.
You will have those days where you feel like you are pulling your hair out of your head. Too many doors were shut in your face and you’ve heard the last no you can hear in one day. Your support system will be MIA. A customer will cancel their order. There will be a delay in a shipment. You name it, it will happen. It will get tough. You will get tired. Don’t try to push through it. It will only raise your blood pressure and frustrate you more.
STEP AWAY!!! Turn your computer off. Leave the office. Turn your phone off. And just go. It doesn’t really matter where you go. Just get away and don’t think about work for a while. Give yourself a day or two to clear your thoughts so that you can see clearly. You need this time away to regain clarity. It’s ok. I promise your business will not completely fall apart because you weren’t engaged in it for 24 hours. (Seriously though, if your business is not already automated we really need to talk about you making your business more “hands free”) Depending on the level of anxiety or stress I am feeling, I will sometimes step away for 3 days.
When I decided to rebrand, I experienced the most stressful 2 months of my life. I hired a web developer, she went MIA right in the middle of the project. So while I was already juggling “literally” 9 different projects that I was working on, I had to add “building my website” to the list. One early Monday morning I was stressed and my body was doing an amazing job at letting me know I was stressed. So my Mr. told me to step away from the business until Wednesday. Of course I fought tooth and nail. I have too much to do and deadlines must be reached. I had to think about something though. How much can I really accomplish while laying in a hospital bed because I had a stroke??? Hmmmmmm, not much at all. So I sat my happy hips down somewhere and relaxed. It was hard, but, I made it through. And guess what. When I got back to work on Wednesday, I was in beast mode. I accomplished more that day than I did the entire previous week.
(Sidenote: I’m now glad my web developer went MIA. I learned so much from her horrible and unprofessional ways of conducting business. It taught me how to make the customer service experience AMAZING for anyone working with me! Make sure you learn from all the mistakes of entrepreneurs you unfortunately may meet.)
#6 – You need to schedule your work.
Don’t whim it! You need a system so that you make sure you are covering all areas of your business. A schedule for consistency. When will you market your products. When will you create your products. Contacting leads and following up with clients. Having a system takes the guess work out of it. Create a daily schedule of when you will complete your tasks and stick with it.
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